Remember, if you forced someone to achieve a certain goal. Maybe you work in trade or in the company, which employees imposed certain targets. Often, we have to strive for goals that seem unrealistic. Perhaps you impose their parents or spouse. When the memory pops up a specific situation, pay attention to what you feel about it now. Allow yourself to experience any feelings at the moment makes you memories of the past situation. Think about what gives rise to the need for these feelings. Could you let her go?