"I suffer, therefore I exist." Strange as it may seem to you this statement, it is by this logic most of us live. We identify ourselves with their problems, believing that the problem is only with us. As if we justify our existence obstacles that must be overcome, problems to be solved, and the suffering that we have to bear. We identify ourselves with the suffering that they themselves over and bring on. We are so caught up in his role with the human problem, which often are afraid that without it we will not know who we really are. When we choose a time to reflect on "their" problems, it turns out that we got used to the usual way of thinking and behavior and can not imagine life without them. Instead of open uncertainty that comes with letting go of feelings, we cling to an artificial reliability of the usual expectation, even if it is no good.