wine There are three types of guilt: the neurotic, existential and real. Any of them can hide behind the senses, any can be opened with the help of a professional or self-therapy, but there is also a fundamental difference. In the case of neurotic guilt you just need to feel it, to get rid of the symptom (external emotion), but in the case of existential guilt and the real experience of feeling inadequate. They need to do something to solve the problem in reality. Remember the time that I forgot about lunch Bernie ? With anger I covered guilt caused by the fact that "deprived" of his food. He, for his part, does not feel deprived of anything; my hidden guilt was irrational, neurotic. All I needed to do - to feel this guilt, anger and appearance once was. Subsequently, I have a similar problem will not arise. From time to time I have to resort to self-therapy in order to feel that guilt again. Remember my psevdognev when Ginny plagued me with food ( "Communication between parent and child," part II)? There is no other way in the case of neurotic guilt, but to feel it.