The consequences of incorrect settings Stern believes that as a result of setting up recurring infant begins to develop a sense of what other people are able and willing to share their feelings. This feeling seems to emerge from them about eight months, when children begin to realize that they are separated from the rest of the people, and continues to be shaped by friendships and intimate relationships throughout life. And it is very distressing, if parents incorrectly configured on the child. In one experiment, Stern instructed several women deliberately too or insufficiently overreact to their children, but do not try to tune to them. The case ended the fact that the children immediately reacted to this attitude fright and distress.